Obituary for Tom Goe
Thomas Ray Goe, 68 finally found his peace on Monday April 3, 2017. He had been ill the past several years and while death was coming, it was not expected that day. He went into cardiac arrest while in dialysis. He died at Ball Memorial Hospital in the Trauma Unit after great doctors and nurses worked for over an hour to revive him. He was physically and emotionally worn out. His illnesses had taken all the strength he had in him.
Tom was born in Muncie Indiana on July 17, 1948, the fourth child of Clayton Wesley and Martha Goe. He resided in Muncie all of his life with the exception of his military service to his country. He did his basic training at Fort Knox, Kentucky and was shipped out of Fort Lewis Washington to Saigon, Vietnam. He served his country for 12 months before coming back home to his family in Muncie.
Tom had graduated from Muncie Central High School in 1966. He completed two years of technical training working toward his journeyman’s tool maker card. He married Pamela Smith Goe March the 22 of 1968. Three very wanted and loving boys were added to this union. They’re family complete and Tom perused his journeyman status by working at Duffy Tool and Stamping for 8 years, it was there after working 4 years he gained his full status as a journeyman tool maker. After Duffy’s he was fortunate enough to be hired at General Motors and continued employment there for thirty five and a half years until the plant turned the lights off. Tom was a diehard Union man. He was a member of sympathy club and 5 lakes conservation club of Lagrange Co.
Tom and Pam bought a cottage up on Westler Lake, which was a chain of five lakes to access, He love bass fishing and in the later years made the mistake of getting his wife involved in that sport and he only out fished her two times after that. He always had to unhook the bass since his wife refused to learn that skill. He taught all three boys to water ski and he took great delight when all three boys and Pam would be on skis behind the board. When there was no spotter to take, Tom learned to swivel his head well. But he always liked looking back and seeing four skiers behind his bass boat. Tom himself never could learn to ski but he sure taught many other to and to love it. He loved taking his grandchildren tubing and as they got older and he could run the boat faster. He enjoyed seeing body’s flying out of that tube. He would teach them hand signals for speeding up and slowing down but usually he would never read those signals correctly. The years of watching his boys and then his grandchildren enjoy the water were the best times for him. He loved the quiet times at the lake also. No matter what was going on, being at the Lakes was a good time for the entire family. When after 43 years health issues caused us to sell it but there were many memoires that followed all of his family. Tom was the most generous men ever put on the face of the earth. He was a very generous tipper to wait staff, helped people whenever help was needed. He gave freely of his money and time. He was not a cheap man in any definition. His greatest love was his boys. He coached their sports team, and if he wasn’t coaching he was always on the sidelines rooting them on. Every year for 20 years he would take all of his family to Walt Disney World. After about the 10th trip to Disney World, Tom and Pam just referred to it as Dizzy World. When the three boys graduated, Tom paid for them to go where they wanted to go. One was smart and chose the islands; two said happily “Walt Disney World”.
As grandchildren began arriving, Austin came first and he was so delighted in that little boy. Tom taught him to love baseball, fishing and gave him a love of the water. That little guy tagged along on every trip to the cottage. Austin was adored and remained so thru all of Tom’s life. Austin was a great care giver to Tom as illness befell him. Brittany was his first granddaughter and he wasn’t quite sure what to do with her so he’d dress her in blue jeans and a tee shirt. He taught her to swing a bat, fish and again, a love of the water. She was his tube girl. They did movies together and made a lot of fast food runs. He loved and watched over her just as he did Austin. It was eight years before another little Goe came into the world and that was Alyvia Ryane ….. He doted on her. He had retired and he spent many days babysitting her. He had to relearn how to change diapers - - even dirty ones. Now she loved spooky movies and blown em up movies and they would sit for hours in his recliner watching Aliens, King Kong and World War II movies. He had found his perfect companion. She went everywhere he went. They were two weird people out in the word with no chaperones. They were made for each other. He would and did anything to help his children and grandchildren. He was faithful to them till the very end. He always had concern for them right until his last breath. His boys and his grandchildren were his whole world.
Tom is survived by his wife of 49 years Pam, his sons Kyle Richard Goe (Wife Bobbie Jo) of Muncie. Andrew Ray Goe of Midland Texas and a sister-in –law Judy Goe of Florida. Just a year ago this past March he lost his youngest son Christopher Ryan Goe. Tom could never get past that. He was so ill by then he would sit and watch old home videos and just cry. He could not come back from that until Austin and his wife Jacy gave us a new little Goe, Daisy Ann Michelle. That brought life back to him. Jacy and Austin never missed a week of bring her over to us. He never knew what do to with her. But as she got a few months older then he was comfortable to hold her and she would always take his pens out of his shirt pocket and they would discuss Daisy taking his pens. Christopher’s daughter Ryane has stayed close to him as has her mother, our daughter-in law, Mary Amber Jones. He had a wonderful and loving support group. Tom is survived by his sister Ruthie Canter who he loved and adored so very much and was faithful to stay in touch weekly with him and her husband David Canter. Tom was preceded in death by his parents, his older brother Clayton, Jr who he always adored and his son, Christopher. Many uncles, aunts and cousins preceded him also. Each loss took its toll. Tom was a faithful husband, father, son, and most certainly grandpa. Steve Roddefer was his best friend from childhood and that bond remained throughout their lives. …. They both served in Vietnam and came home to Muncie safely. Steve and his wife Lavonne while moving across the country have stayed faithful to keep in touch. Tom did a lot of Volunteer work after retirement. For three years he worked tirelessly along with the Food Pantry crew which his wife directed along with Mary Dunscombe. Tom became close and loved Dave and Myra Shady. He was always so comfortable with them. Many dinners were shared with laughter and great memories. His best friends of the last thirty years were Ronnie and Mary Dunscombe. They were in the Trauma room when Tom died. They were steadfast in their love and friendship and were always there for us. With the exception of Andy and Rayne, we were all with him when his heart beat that last time. If he could have realized the support and love that was all around him he would have been grateful.
Tom had no church affiliation, but was always supportive of his wife’s mission trips and was a great financial support to those efforts. He was always putting Andy on a plane to go help do mission work. Tom was not in church but sure did a lot of good things to support and help those groups who did step forward and went into mission fields and always encouraged his wife ……. TO GO. He had his own way of seeing things; he was a good man who truly tried to do good where he was at, for as long as he could.
Two years ago Leo, a rescue dog from ARF came into our family. The dog has many deficiencies but Tom saw none of those. That dog, Leo Einstein became his dog from day one and never left his side. Tom would always take him ‘truck ‘in’ and while Pam tried never to go out in public with Leo, Tom delighted in that dog. They made many drive thru runs to Baskin Robbins. Whatever Leo wanted to do, ole Tom would do.
There would be no way to finish this obituary without a heartfelt thank you to Manu Joseph and his excellent care even if Tom wasn’t always a compliant patient. Rachel Robinson, thank you for your quiet mannerism and loving approach to Tom and doing everything humanly possible to keep his kidneys going. She came out to the hospital and stayed with us and Tom during the final hour. Dr Robinson, your kindness and easiness with Tom and all of us, there really are no words other than thank you. Tom had a great surgeon, Dr David Cadogan – he was an easy fit for Tom and Pam. We thank you all so very much. To our children and grandchildren, you never let us down. You came when we didn’t even call … you seemed to just know you needed to be here. You are loved with everything part of our hearts.
Tom’s family will hold a private funeral service in his honor.
Memorial contributions may be given to Harbor Light Baptist Church; PO Box 2001 Oceana, WV 24870.